People Can Only Love and Understand You Through Their Limitations

This message is specifically for my Grown-Ass Women...and those around them that truly desire to understand them.

People can only love and understand you to the degree that they love and understand themselves. I'll say it again... People can only love and understand you to the degree that they love and understand themselves.

This means that you and only YOU are responsible for building a loving, understanding, and nurturing relationship...with yourself!

If you do not take the time to self-reflect, dig deeper into your mental and emotional patterns/triggers, treat yourself with compassion and grace, set healthy boundaries, acknowledge your insecurities/issues/challenges and work through them in a healthy way with a qualified professional (coach, therapist, etc.) ... it will be impossible for you to love and understand someone else completely.

How do you begin? Maybe you step back, let go of anything that you do not necessarily HAVE to be involved in, remove people, organizations, and responsibilities that no longer serve you or require too much from you, hire help for any area without feeling guilty and even give people their shit back. (See my article in SOAR Magazine titled "Maybe It's Time to Give Everyone Their Shit Back)

As middle-aged women begin/continue to "grow through" the Crone phase of their lives, the wise woman is awakened within. It is she that causes a woman that has built her life around her "dream career" and has reached the pinnacle of success to walk away from it all and move to Bali, become a fruitarian to study yoga and the 'nature of existence.'

All of the things she has experienced and pushed down are now bubbling back up to the surface for her to resolve. Past feelings, past experiences, past trauma ALL of this, while her body is going through a "biomechanical, hormonal, emotional, mental and spiritual overhaul" as the world around her, has no idea what she is going through on the inside.

If this is you, I would suggest that you do the following:

• Focus on you, if that means cutting people off until you find your balance, then grab the scissors.
• Seek the coaching/counsel of someone that understands what you're going through and can support you through it.
• Find your voice.

Sharing your truth with others may not be comfortable for either of you, but you need to start getting uncomfortable with being uncomfortable.

I am walking this very path right now if you ever want to talk to someone that understands exactly where you are and can speak from experience, I'm here for you.

Head on over to www.calendly.com/coachanitacharlot to block some time. This call is absolutely free, however, make sure that you are going to be available for the time you select; blocking time on my calendar, and then not showing up is a waste of MY time.

See how I demonstrated how to share MY truth?

I can teach you how to demonstrate yours! Schedule time with me today!